Have you heard the news? Tinder is causing a ‘Dating Apocalypse.’ That’s right, this plain dating app is causing switches in human mating and dating behavior, the likes of which we’ve never seen before. that is, if you agree with the September Vanity Fair article by Nancy Jo Sales, “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse.” Not wooed? Browse over to the R.I. Health Department and read their conclusion that Tinder is one cause of the nation-wide rise in STDs. That’s one powerful app, right? Could it be true? Has Tinder forever switched the way people date?
What is Tinder and Why has it become the Concentrate of Debate?
Tinder is a free, location-based mobile dating app that simplifies the process most dating websites require. You simply download the app to your wise phone, link to your Facebook account, choose up to six photos of yourself, and write a brief bio. That’s it!
Then the game embarks. The app shows you photos of singles based on your preferences. You swipe left if you don’t like them and swipe right if you do. If someone you like also swiped right on your photo, the app instantaneously informs you, “It’s a Match!” and urges you to begin talking. Beware: Tinder is addictive. But, is it just a hook-up app for the ‘hit-it-and-quit-it’ culture, or is it something more?
If you’ve familiar with online dating, you may wonder what the appeal is, and how you can find someone worth your time given what little information the app gives and requires. But that’s what makes Tinder superb. The app is plain, effortless on the eye and feels like a game. The objective? To find matches and commence conversations. And when you are matched, beginning conversations is lighter. After all, you know your match is also interested.
Tinder is more efficient because it doesn’t require answering a long series of questions to find the best matches for you. It’s a matter of choosing whether to swipe left or right. Sounds too ordinary, right? Well, not exactly. The decision-making process involved in using Tinder is both rational and emotional. You’ll rationalize your swiping decision based on age, distance and a brief bio (if included). But let’s be fair, it’s all about the photos. Swiping left or right depends on how attractive you find a candidate, and that’s unspoiled emotion.
Tinder Is Only for Hook-Ups.
If you believe the hype and speak to the wrong people, you’ll be wooed that Tinder is just another meet up app. But, dismissing this app would be a mistake, and I can give you 50 million reasons in 196 countries worldwide to persuade you. Yes, Tinder is popular and widespread.
Over the past few months, I’ve used Tinder Plus (premium subscription / worldwide) to “informally research” Tinder users (women and studs) across a broad age-range (25-50) all over the world. And No, I did not create fake profiles.
What I found? Almost 60 percent of all women who wrote a narrative in their profile included a reference to NOT wanting a hook-up. Here are examples copied from Tinder profiles in the United States:
Not looking for a hook-up, but thanks for the thought . . . Makes me feel all warm ‘n fuzzy, LOL.
NOT HERE FOR A HOOK-UP. KEEP YOUR STDs TO YOURSELF!
Looking Four a match, not a F*** B****!
Hook-ups, please swipe left. XOXO
So, people are aware of Tinder’s “hook-up” reputation, yet they are still willing to attempt the application hoping to connect with someone who is also looking for a serious relationship. Are these women hiding their true intentions about hooking-up? I think not.
Can Tinder Lead to a Long-Term Relationship?
There’s slew of discussion about the “seriousness” of mobile dating apps. In fact, many find them superficial because of how plain they are. Perhaps this adds to the app’s allure and charm. Whatever the case, Tinder is popular and has brought online dating to the masses. People who have considered online dating desperate find it much lighter to download the ordinary app, link to Facebook and swipe away.
Indeed, there are slew of twenty-somethings who are on Tinder for a quick hook-up. And, if you use it, you’ll very likely find a match who swiped right to woo you to meet up with them. But you’ll find just as many interesting, attractive and successful people who are only interested in a committed relationship.
Afraid of matching and talking with a married person? Yes, unluckily it happens on Tinder! Oh, but wait, it also happens in bars, restaurants, at speed dating events, and through matchmaking services. It happens in life!
Does Tinder make hooking-up and casual hook-up lighter? Yes, if you’re looking for it. But it makes finding meaningful relationships lighter as well. What happens after you’re matched, depends on you and your playmate. Trust your instincts and make sure your playmate is on the same page. If someone makes you awkward, un-match them, report the issue and stir on.
Today’s technology, connectivity and innovative applications make connecting with and meeting fresh friends effortless. But at the end of the day, you’re still the one who determines who you find attractive and with whom you want to spend your time. Tinder is just a device — a portal to connect and introduce you to others. But it’s the largest and baddest on the playground. And if you’re in the game, don’t you want to play with the best? Tinder is plain, quick, joy and free — and everyone seems to be doing it. If you’re single and looking, keep an open mind and check it out. You might be pleasurably astonished.